7 Things Life Forces You to Learn

Life doesn't offer elective courses; it delivers mandatory lessons. These lessons, etched in experience, are unavoidable. Prepare to confront seven hard-won truths you'll learn, one way or another.

1. "You" are not permanent: Nothing’s permanent in this world. What’s once created has to be destroyed sooner or later, be it a wooden chair, mobile phones, clothes, thoughts, cars. I mean everything. Even the people who belittled you, caused you great pain and sorrow, will disappear when it’s time. So, don’t worry if your perceived image is challenged by people who dislike you. Embrace the positivity that people who love you offer. Because neither both of them are permanent nor you. Stop taking yourself so seriously.

2. "You" are your best friend: If you explore beyond the feeling of loneliness or emptiness, you realize that it’s impossible for anyone to understand and accept you wholeheartedly and vice versa. It’s simply impossible to love someone without any expectations or anything in return. People love to be loved back. Only a few great souls practice selfless love, but they don’t survive too long to reap the benefits. Instead of looking outside for a true companion, why not look inside yourself? With patience and self-care, the haunting loneliness and emptiness will appear as a blessing in disguise. The best is always the one you identify. So, identify yourself.

3. You only see what others show you: The true nature of the people can be seen only when the sun is on a vacation for weeks - It’s impossible! You never see a true nature of anyone. People behave differently to different situations. They think differently. They dream of being part of a cult for a fulfilling life. They compromise to fit in. They lie to be liked by someone. Well, the questions here isn’t if it’s right or wrong. The point is - there’s always a strategy for what people show you who they are. It’s you who misunderstand their strategy into believing the delusional mental pictures. Be open-minded and stop being judgemental.

4. You being truthful, honest, and helpful is your choice: If someone caused you a great pain (Consciously or subconsciously), how you respond to it is your choice. If your closest person often lied to you, or is dishonest, or unsupportive, it’s their choice. If they had to, they would have been otherwise. If you are starving and only left with a piece of bread sitting next a hungry dog, would you offer a bite, half of it, or full is your choice. Don’t expect unseen super power or people around you to appreciate you. Charity is your choice and not appreciate it is theirs. Stop beating yourself every time!

5. You are irrelevant if you have nothing to offer: Everyone is clever and smart enough to survive in any blood-sucking situations in life. They will do so even if all the moral values, ethics, and traditions have to be overlooked or ignored. If a cult or a group share their good intentions and works only on them, it's a place of harmony otherwise, it's hell. This applies to families, relatives, friends, colleagues, and to every other connection where humans are involved. We always don’t live in such environment, we travel and meet new people. When people show you what they want you to see, what you offer them matters - Nothing else! Find a place in your heart for yourself. Even if none finds you relevant, you exist for yourself.

6. Your peace of mind comes at cost: You have responsibilities to fulfil. You have dependents to look after. You have desires and goals that only can be accomplished when you’re employed. You plan your vacation or solo trips to different destinations looking for peace of mind (In other words, - Quality time) only to realize that you need to leave behind something. It could be a few tens of thousands to lakhs for the vacation, or carrying a few KGs of luggage climbing steep mountains, compromising your important scheduled appointments, and more. I find it extremely painful that nowadays humans have to plan and decide when they are planning to get some peace of mind - funny but worrisome! At least, you don’t have to do it that way. Instead, focus on the present. Do what matters. Find your peace of mind in the things that you do. Yes, there’s always a cost to it. Let the cost spent be for a good cause.

7. You can never truly belong.: It’s not a bad thing. It’s just how it is. A seed is sowed with an expectation that it offers something in return - A pleasant atmosphere or fruits or home to a few animals and birds. Similarly, right from your young age, you are often trained or guided in a specific direction to do certain things a certain way. You move from places to places looking out newer opportunities and benefits to leave behind the life that no long excites you. You learn new things to excel and prosper (Student to expert roadmap). You never truly belong to just one group or cult or thought-process. The only freedom that humans have is the power of imagination. As imagination or delusional visions over powers us, we move from thoughts to thoughts. Hence, we really never truly belong. So, stop trying to fit in forcefully. Accept your true self.

   
   

   

   
   

   The intention of this deep and irritating article is not to disappoint you or spoil your moment, but to share a few unsaid life lessons that I have experienced often and have observed people struggling to cope it with. If you’ve found this helpful, please make the right choice of sharing it with others. Wish you well in your endeavours. Take care!