7 Reasons why you're not happy!

Sometimes, I feel hopeless and drained when I can’t take a short break from my daily tiring routine. In the last 3 months, I tried to find some time to enjoy some “me” time but I couldn’t. I was constantly engaged with too many tasks which I couldn’t walk away from. When I tried to share it with others, they said “it’s your responsibility to deal with it. You cannot say that you have too many problems. You are still young.” The fact is, I am dealing with it. I just wanted to feel happy and satisfied so that I can manage them even better. Without spoiling my health and peace of mind.

Neither I nor you are an exception. Everyone of us has too many problems. Some of us are good at pretending that they’re okay. Some of us are good at managing them. Some of us are good at running away from them. We all have our plans and methods to deal with our issues. And, sometimes it gets worse when there’s no support but criticism and hurtful responses.

Here are the reasons why your life isn’t sorted. I found a few quick fixes to these reasons but it’s you who should tailor it as needed.

1. I have too many responsibilities: You have taken or are taking too many tasks than you could handle. Trust me, it will burn you out soon. There are different methods to deal with this issue but one that really helped me is tagging them a priority. Now, priority can be based on emotional needs, financial needs, physical needs or all of these together. You need to list down all the tasks that you think you are responsible for and tag them with different priorities. Remember, only one task should have one kind of priority.

2. I hate to do this: Sometimes, we have to do a few tasks despite our likes or dislikes. That’s how it is and we cannot change it. Rather than complaining and stressing yourself, try to embrace it. Remember, nothing is permanent in this world including the task you hate doing. It is just a matter of time and little effort convincing yourself that it won’t last forever.

3. I am trying hard to hold things together: First of all, you should be proud of yourself that you are being considerate and responsible towards your commitments. Although, I understand how stressful it can be. It gets worse when you’re trying to hold different opinionated members of the family together. At times, it works but often fails. It is heartbreaking to see a family member walk away for any reason. But, you’re still trying to glue them together. Any goodhearted individual would do the same. But, you should remember that you cannot glue two same pole magnets together. They can be under one roof but cannot be close. There’s no point forcing them to stay close rather accepting the fact. You need to understand that you cannot control people. You cannot force them to follow your ideas and psychology. It is wise to face the truth irrespective of the consequences. Remember, peace of mind, happiness, and a good sleep at night shouldn’t be disturbed with your efforts. There’s no point working hard on something that won’t yield you any of the above.

4. I am trying to live upto other's expectations: We all have done that. Consciously or subconsciously. You decide to buy something to please someone. You accept something that you really didn't want to. You agree to something that you're didn't want to. You take responsibilities of someone else's tasks. Why? Have you asked yourself? Why are you doing this? Is it making your happy or draining your peace of mind? Is it fruitful or depressing? Why please someone or pretend when you aren't happy with it?

5. I am not doing what I love: Remember that only you can take full responsibility of your life and actions. Only you can look after yourself. No one else can. Even the closest person of yours can guide you but it's you who needs to get up and step forward. Take time to find out what you love. Do what you love doing and continue doing it. Even you can't do it everyday, that's okay! do it whenever you can.

6. I am too much occupied to take a break: Believe me! We all are humans and we get tired. Mentally, emotionally, and physically. Trips alone won't help you rejuvenate all these fundamental aspects. Spend sometime everyday to find out what's draining your energy so much. Find out why you're over committing. Is it that there's too much pressure or is it that you can't say 'no'? Find out if it's worth disturbing your mental, emotional, and physical health.

7. Nothing's working for me: I know! Life is very simple. It wants to balance everything. If you're happy, it wants to remind you that there's pain too. If you're poor, it wants to remind you that there's richness too. At times, things may not go as you expected but life doesn't tell you quit! It doesn't tell you to continue. It only tells you that it has some elements that you can't skip. So it's upto you how you perceive it. Continue doing what you love. Continue focusing on your peace of mind. Change your habits, lifestyle, if required. Remember, my friend, there's nothing free in this world! Even to breathe in oxygen, you put some effort there!

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