5 Ruthless Lessons of Reality

It’s been over 2 years that my life has been taking some crazy, unapologetic, brutal turns, often that I neither thought of nor was I ever prepared. The old beliefs that I falsely held close to my heart appear no longer to benefit me. When I often found myself at a crossroads, I always pondered: "Should I abandon my belief system that defined who I was or embrace a scary, hopeless change that may or may not make a better person? "

Myself being an active preacher of change and adventure, I said to myself, “What worse could I experience that I never saw or heard of?” and the quest began. The quest turned out to be a question mark that life threw at me, “Rakesh, what do you want from your life?” With my explorer attitude, I proudly asked, “Show me the reality.” Guess what? The reality turned out to be worse than I had ever imagined. lol! I saw things that I never thought existed around me. I thought I was an exception, like everyone else, but I was just a being. The universe was kind and empathetic to me; it left no chance for me to complain later.

Here I am writing another article narrating my experiences and lessons learnt in a short, funny, and realistic way:

1. Be Brutally Authentic: Your authenticity is your true power. Don’t let someone fool you into believing that you can “belong” only if you “change”. Well, my friend, the reality is… nobody ever perfectly belongs anywhere. People have fooled themselves into believing that they co-exist happily ever after, but the reality is it’s the temporary comfort they are seeking. It will vanish the moment their emotional pillar cracks. You know it, I know it, and they know it too. Remember, you’re not a piece of the puzzle; you are a functionally capable human being.

   
   

2. Learn to Enjoy your Company: I am not anti-relationship; I am anti fake-relationship. Being alone is an incredibly strange power not everyone can master. If you have the guts to face your deep fears and shadow side, no deceit can trick you. Be it a person, feeling, emotion, or a thing. It all works the same way: it grabs your attention, attacks your vulnerable side, tricks you into depending on it, and feeds on this dependency, making you weaker in your own mind. At last, it blames you for depending on it. Remembering someone already? lol! Anyway, it was your conscious choice that may have led to this. Think about it!

   
   

3. Higher Power and Karm: Learn to surrender to a higher power. There are two sides to it: 1. It will always keep your ego, emotions, and mental health in good condition. 2. The universe / God’s methods are mysterious; Karm - a tool of balance, restoration, and justice is one such existence. When you surrender, you realise that the scale of karm getting balanced on its own in an exquisite yet unapologetic way. Eventually, what goes around comes around bigger and stronger. Nobody is an exception or all are exceptions in their own sweet way.

   
   

4. Embrace Change: People, feelings, emotions, lies, comfort, relationships, status, reputation, roles, responsibilities, everything changes with time. It doesn’t care if you like it or not. It doesn’t matter if you’re prepared for it or not. If it has a lesson to teach you, it will. It will reveal in its own crazy way. If you’re smart, you will learn it quickly else you’ll learn it the hard way. None shall pass. Nor anyone will ever be able to escape.

   
   

5. Life and Death: Please accept the basics of life. Life has meaning and value because death exists. All of us have to die someday. Some earlier than us, some later than us. The short period of days and nights we spend should be moments of celebration, laughter, fun, and filled with love. Don’t stress yourself for revenge, hatred, and with ego-driven agendas. If you know that you only had a day left, would you spend hating someone who never cares about you or spend that day loving yourself and doing things that matter to you? It’s that simple! It’s that straight forward!

Well, these lessons are often spoken on social media, books, or heard from the people we love and trust, what’s new in it, right?

The experience in realising these brutal truths are often not the same as hearing or reading elsewhere. You are only what you define yourself to be. If you develop an attitude and mindset of sailing through tough times with a pinch of positivity and self-care, life has abundance to offer and experience. Choose what works best for you. Listen to your inner conscious carefully. That’s your true compass and guide, not the people whose presence your gut hates. Happiness is found to them who dare to find it; even if it temporarily costs them sacrificing their old beliefs… Like me!